Have you been in the feeling of regret? Like after doing something, you regret doing it. Especially something bad and even harmful to yourself or maybe somebody else.
It is a yes for me.
Honestly, there were so many things I wish I didn't do. So many things I wish I put my thought more before I did it. So many speech that I wish I had not say. So many moments I wish I never had.
In Malay, it is called 'Kalau lah'. That word 'IF'. T_T
I had come across this hadith and tried to do some self-reflection.
Abu Huraira reported Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) as saying:
A strong believer is better and is more lovable to Allah than a weak believer, and there is good in everyone, (but) cherish that which gives you benefit (in the Hereafter) and seek help from Allah and do not lose heart, and if anything (in the form of trouble) comes to you, don't say: If I had not done that, it would not have happened so and so, but say: Allah did that what He had ordained to do and your" if" opens the (gate) for the Satan.
reference;- Sahih Muslim 2664
Sometimes, the things which had happened in the past do not allow us to move on.They make us feel so sad and keep on staying in the sad condition without even try to escape from it towards something better. Like, 'I can't let it go, I can't move on. It keeps lingering in my mind'.
And as a Muslim, it is not the good attitude to Allah who had destined everything for us. We are not being grateful with He had given to us.
It's the whisper in your ear saying 'set it free' - Matthew West
Now, it is the time to set it free. Erase all the thought that I've done sins or I'm not a good person. Turn back to Allah. Repent all the sins and try the best not to do it again.
Allah is the most Merciful. Have you read or listen to the story of somebody doing sins and then repent with all his heart but still doing the sin again then repeat again and again. Allah still forgive him. If we come to Him with repentance, He will forgive us! You can listen to that story in the video below. :)
Still remember the concept of tawbah (Taubat) that we have learned in school before?
1. Recognise our sins & mistakes
2. Feel ashamed to Allah as we have violated His trust
3. Promise yourself to never repeat the mistake
Believe in Allah and pray hard that He will make things right for us. Depend on Him in whatever we do.
Indeed, Allah loves those who are constantly repentant and loves those who purify themselves. - Al-Baqarah 2:222
Be grateful with what had happened. Everything that is destined is not coincidence, even when we meet our long-lost school friend out of nowhere in the supermarket - that is not coincidence. It is planned for us to meet each other.
Believe that everything happens with reason/s. In that way, we will not blame ourselves so hard and will have open hearts and minds to accept things. Keep on praying, never stop.
I found this WikiHow link very useful for us. :) Read it, guys.